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Location Change. Calendar Change. Resolution Change.

Posted by on Jan 1, 2016 in Depression, Emotions, Grief, Self-Concept, Uncategorized | 0 comments

Location Change.  Calendar Change.  Resolution Change.

In case you haven’t heard the news – Planting Seeds Counseling and Coaching has moved offices.  We’ve moved out of the house in the Historic District of Frisco into a newly constructed office in West Frisco.  As with any change… We let go of some things that we held fondly…  We let go of some things we were glad to see go. At the same time we are beginning to grab hold of some things… That are new and exciting while… Enduring frustrations over things that are perhaps not as we had hoped.  So is the nature of change… ...

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What’s in your Parent/Child CommunicaTION?

Posted by on Sep 10, 2015 in Emotions, Parenting, Self-Concept | 0 comments

What’s in your Parent/Child CommunicaTION?

When researchers look at the type of communication between parents and children they find that an inordinate amount of communication focuses on two types: … direction and correction.  Studies have videotaped families, charting their communication.  They found the bulk of communication revolves around the parent telling their children what to do and what not to do.  As you are thinking about your home, you may be thinking… ”of course! I have to!”  And to some degree you do.  Children need direction and correction from their...

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Mother’s Day – A Day of Ambivalence

Posted by on May 9, 2015 in Depression, Emotions, Grief, Loneliness, Parenting | 0 comments

Mother’s Day is here again and families are preparing for a day of honoring and doting on their beloved mother.  Many will spend the day eating together and celebrating multiple generations of mothers.  Each represented mother will be showered with accolades for the many roles she has played and the many ways she has loved her children.  However, for some this day feels more like a day of suffering rather than celebrating.  While for some people this day reminds them of what they have – for others this day reminds them of what they...

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Life Lessons Learned On the Court

Posted by on Mar 26, 2015 in Marriage, Parenting, Self-Concept, Uncategorized | 0 comments

Life Lessons Learned On the Court

I love to watch my daughters play volleyball. Partially, the pride of a parent watching her children develop skills and have those skills tested in a game but also because I see the value of what they are learning about life and relationships.  Although I am relating to volleyball to describe these qualities, the concepts are transferable to most any team sport. 1) You don’t control the world. You can only do your part.  Winning or losing is affected not only by your personal performance but also the performance of your teammates and the...

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Abandoning the “Should”

Posted by on Dec 2, 2014 in Anger, Anxiety, Depression, Emotions, Loneliness, Marriage, Parenting | 0 comments

Abandoning the “Should”

I leaned in close with anticipation as my sister whispered to me “the worst name to call anyone”.  As my older sister she held much more street knowledge than I, so I was eager for her wisdom.  I won’t tell you the word she passed on to me that day but I do remember her description of why it was so bad.  The person would feel condemned for something they were powerless to change. Well, if I could add a word to my streetwise sister’s bad word list, I would add the word “SHOULD”.  “Should” implies that there is a spreadsheet...

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Numbing is Dumbing

Posted by on Nov 3, 2014 in Emotions, Grief, Substance abuse | 0 comments

Numbing is Dumbing

Right from the start I want to tell you that I dislike the title for this post.  Yes, I crafted the title.  It rhymes and it is provocative.  But it also lacks understanding and compassion.  There are reasons that many people turn to drugs, alcohol, sex, food or maybe just checking out in front of the TV or computer.  Sometimes life feels too overwhelming to handle.  The message that seems to be prevalent, particularly in song lyrics, is that escape is better than reality.  Tears well up in my eyes each time I hear the song...

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September Is Suicide Prevention Month

Posted by on Sep 9, 2014 in Anxiety, Depression, Grief, Loneliness, Suicide | 0 comments

September is Suicide Prevention month. Sadly, it lands just one short month after the world lost one of our most beloved entertainers, Robin Williams.  Suicide prevention is about education, about encouraging each other to be involved and to ask questions, and mostly suicide prevention is about offering hope. On that note, one of the most helpful websites that I have found is: http://metanoia.org/.  Specifically, the page “If you are thinking about suicide… read this first” http://www.metanoia.org/suicide/. From this website:...

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Mattering Matters

Posted by on Jul 11, 2014 in Anxiety, Depression, Emotions, Loneliness, Marriage, Parenting, Uncategorized | 0 comments

Knowing that we matter to someone else is a need we all share and one that when met produces pleasant emotions.  With the realization that we matter in the life of another person comes the sense that we are valued, loved, known, included and wanted.  Mattering is particularly important if that other person is someone that matters to you. Marcheta P. Evans and Thelma Duffey wrote in a recent Counseling Today article on mattering, “We know we matter not only when our words, needs and opinions are seen as relevant to the other person, but...

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The Gift of Emotions

Posted by on May 30, 2014 in Anger, Anxiety, Depression, Emotions, Grief, Loneliness, Uncategorized | 0 comments

It has been said that “emotions buried alive never die”.  If you are like me, you might say “yep, that make sense” but with no real understanding of how this concept is lived out in your own life.  So let’s talk about emotions. Some Christian literature talks about emotions as something to be controlled.  Some language gives the impression that many emotions are meant to be eradicated. I’d like to present an alternative view.  Emotions are a gift from God.  We know that God gives good gifts but I get the mental picture of...

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New Year Resolution

Posted by on Jan 1, 2014 in Anger, Anxiety, Depression, Uncategorized | 0 comments

It’s that time again when we make a commitment to do things better in the coming year than we had in the past.  For some that means taking better care of their bodies by eating better or exercising.  For others it is making a commitment to be better organized in terms of time, money or even in keeping the clutter from piling up.  I would do well to pick any or all of those.  However, this year my resolution is to increase three specific things: connection, rest and forgiveness.  Anyone who has failed at past New Year’s resolutions...

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