Emotions

Location Change. Calendar Change. Resolution Change.

Posted by on Jan 1, 2016 in Depression, Emotions, Grief, Self-Concept, Uncategorized | 0 comments

Location Change.  Calendar Change.  Resolution Change.

In case you haven’t heard the news – Planting Seeds Counseling and Coaching has moved offices.  We’ve moved out of the house in the Historic District of Frisco into a newly constructed office in West Frisco.  As with any change… We let go of some things that we held fondly…  We let go of some things we were glad to see go. At the same time we are beginning to grab hold of some things… That are new and exciting while… Enduring frustrations over things that are perhaps not as we had hoped.  So is the nature of change…  Some things must be let go of in order to fully...

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What’s in your Parent/Child CommunicaTION?

Posted by on Sep 10, 2015 in Emotions, Parenting, Self-Concept | 0 comments

What’s in your Parent/Child CommunicaTION?

When researchers look at the type of communication between parents and children they find that an inordinate amount of communication focuses on two types: … direction and correction.  Studies have videotaped families, charting their communication.  They found the bulk of communication revolves around the parent telling their children what to do and what not to do.  As you are thinking about your home, you may be thinking… ”of course! I have to!”  And to some degree you do.  Children need direction and correction from their parents.  We are shaping their behavior and their...

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Mother’s Day – A Day of Ambivalence

Posted by on May 9, 2015 in Depression, Emotions, Grief, Loneliness, Parenting | 0 comments

Mother’s Day is here again and families are preparing for a day of honoring and doting on their beloved mother.  Many will spend the day eating together and celebrating multiple generations of mothers.  Each represented mother will be showered with accolades for the many roles she has played and the many ways she has loved her children.  However, for some this day feels more like a day of suffering rather than celebrating.  While for some people this day reminds them of what they have – for others this day reminds them of what they have not.  Mother’s Day can be a day of...

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Abandoning the “Should”

Posted by on Dec 2, 2014 in Anger, Anxiety, Depression, Emotions, Loneliness, Marriage, Parenting | 0 comments

Abandoning the “Should”

I leaned in close with anticipation as my sister whispered to me “the worst name to call anyone”.  As my older sister she held much more street knowledge than I, so I was eager for her wisdom.  I won’t tell you the word she passed on to me that day but I do remember her description of why it was so bad.  The person would feel condemned for something they were powerless to change. Well, if I could add a word to my streetwise sister’s bad word list, I would add the word “SHOULD”.  “Should” implies that there is a spreadsheet way of being – and it compares your reality...

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Numbing is Dumbing

Posted by on Nov 3, 2014 in Emotions, Grief, Substance abuse | 0 comments

Numbing is Dumbing

Right from the start I want to tell you that I dislike the title for this post.  Yes, I crafted the title.  It rhymes and it is provocative.  But it also lacks understanding and compassion.  There are reasons that many people turn to drugs, alcohol, sex, food or maybe just checking out in front of the TV or computer.  Sometimes life feels too overwhelming to handle.  The message that seems to be prevalent, particularly in song lyrics, is that escape is better than reality.  Tears well up in my eyes each time I hear the song “Habits” by Tove Lo.  Here is just the chorus:...

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Mattering Matters

Posted by on Jul 11, 2014 in Anxiety, Depression, Emotions, Loneliness, Marriage, Parenting, Uncategorized | 0 comments

Knowing that we matter to someone else is a need we all share and one that when met produces pleasant emotions.  With the realization that we matter in the life of another person comes the sense that we are valued, loved, known, included and wanted.  Mattering is particularly important if that other person is someone that matters to you. Marcheta P. Evans and Thelma Duffey wrote in a recent Counseling Today article on mattering, “We know we matter not only when our words, needs and opinions are seen as relevant to the other person, but also when they are important and worthy of...

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